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The fact is that
relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things
do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it
takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a
success. Often when people break off a relationship, they
feel as though something is missing. The "spark" has gone,
leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and
unfulfilled.
However, even though the odds
are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting relationships
are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at
Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea
Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do they
possess? The answer is that they all work hard at their
relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their
mate rather than relying on the "warm and fuzzy" feelings,
which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice you
are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick
it out.
Think of it like choosing a
car. You pick out the make, model, year, colour, and
features that you believe are best for you. After driving
your car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps
you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the
leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days,
the sunroof would have been nice. However, it is now too
late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is
the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and
there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made
your decision and now you choose to make it work.
There are hundreds of things
you can do to better your relationship. To help get you
headed in the right direction, This will gives
you 97 ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your
relationship.
Remember, little steps taken
every day will add up to big successes. |